In The Love Fractal – Part 1 and Part 2 I gave you a brief overview of Love’s story. Actually, I just told you the part of the tale that’s already told. Love’s story is still unfolding and he’s asked me to invite you to tell your part.
We all want Love, but most of us are shitty lovers. It’s easy to point fingers at all the douche bags on the planet and blame them for the lack of Love in the world, but the self-aware and honest among us know different. The human race is a big organism made up of individuals. Humanity is only as healthy as the choices individual people make, and the state of the world reveals that we’re not doing so hot. More importantly, our lack of Love is revealed most starkly by the state of our individual lives and relationships.
This can be a painful realization. It’s much easier to ignore our own shit and blame our problems on the Muslims, or the Jews, or the Christians, or the atheists, or the government, or the Democrats, or the Republicans, or the neighbors, or the HOA, or the church, or the boss, or the co-worker, or the friend, or the wife, or the husband, or the kids. That’s not to say that all of these people don’t legitimately deserve some of the blame for the jacked up state of affairs.
The list of people causing problems is endless, but the biggest problem is that I’m usually last on the list. You too.
Now, we’re not stupid. Experience tells us that we better look out for ourselves because other people sure as hell won’t. We put up walls. We’ve all experienced legitimate pain in the past and we’ve developed all kinds of creative and self-deceptive ways to protect against future trauma. Even so, the hell we’re experiencing is sure because everyone is looking out for themselves.
I’m aware that we could all point to some inspiring exceptions of selflessness. There are even more unsung heroes who get up every day and sacrifice for their families and communities. The world is not totally without Love, and we can come off looking pretty good when we compare our best with the worst of others, but you have to admit, there’s certainly room for improvement.
The only way we can fill the world with more Love is if we become more loving. But how? That’s a tall order when even the best of us can’t live up to our own standards of how we’d like other people to treat us. Should we simply lower the standards and accept a world imprisoned by selfishness? Many will, but not me. That’s not because I’m such a stellar human being. The reason I won’t accept less than Love is that I’ve had the privilege of meeting him. That’s the key. The only people who can Love are those who’ve met Love (and you can tell how well someone knows him by how loved you feel in their presence).
I had read about Love. I had heard about Love. I had sensed Love’s presence in nature, but everything changed when I met him.
I met Love in my wife. I met him in my parents. I met Love in Steve Brown and in other friends who’ve taught me Love’s ways, not only with words, but with action. These people have practiced Otherlyness and have consistently moved toward me unconditionally. They have been Love incarnate, and that made all the difference. They showed me that Love’s selfless spirit is still alive and active in a powerful way in people’s lives.
Once I met Love’s spirit in the flesh and was convinced of his gentleness, kindness and transformative power, it was a short leap of faith to ask the spirit of Love to fill me too.
This is the way to re-union with the Love Fractal. When the seed of Love is planted within us, when we receive unconditional Love from Love himself, self-similar iteration can occur. Union with Love leads to loving action which fills the earth with the image of Love. That is the nature of the Love Fractal. Unconditional Love must be manifest in the flesh or it’s just a nice idea.
Make no mistake, I’m not claiming that this is easy. In fact, it’s incredibly hard. We have spent so much time protecting ourselves in the patterns of our labyrinthine prisons that lovingly giving ourselves away for the benefit of others can be a horrifying prospect. Especially when the others for whom we’re sacrificing don’t care, or worse, are actively engaged in trying to hurt us. It’s much easier to act out of fear, put up a wall, take care of ourselves and let everyone one else fight for whatever scraps they can scrounge for themselves.
Instead of acting loving and trusting Love to protect us, we’re constantly choosing to leave Love’s way. What we do then is crucial to the health and growth of the Love Fractal, and it will be the subject of The Love Fractal – Part 4.
Until then, look for Love. The Tree of Life is alive and well. In fact, Love’s roots are tearing down your wall. Open yourself to Love’s spirit, let him become incarnate in you and continue telling Love’s story with your life. The Love Fractal must grow! Together, with our Love, we could save the world…if they only knew.