It was just going to be a little trim. He was so fluffy!
Two hours later my dog was Dobby from the Harry Potter movies.
Just look at that sad, scrawny puppy. What you can’t see in the picture are the nicks and the fur on the legs I couldn’t get with the clippers. Now when my dog stands up he looks like those skinny chicks in giant fuzzy boots that sasquatch around in the winter (even in Florida).
I’m posting this picture as a reminder of what perfectionism does. It takes an innocent idea and mutilates it until it becomes an unattainable goal. A simple haircut quickly turns into a statement about my competence and value as a person.
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” – Brené Brown
One more snip. Nope, not quite right. The anxiety grows. Argh! The fur isn’t smooth there. Maybe the 1/4 inch guard on the clippers will clean that up. Anger. If I don’t make this look good, my family will hate me!
“Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life.” – Anne Lamott
The twisted thing is that in the end, the innocent idea isn’t the only thing mutilated. The desire to get your task just right keeps you picking at the damned thing until it leaves a scar. Perfection is destruction.
“Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.” – Brené Brown
By the way, I just got my book back from my editor. Just a few more tweaks and it’ll be ready for you to read in no time.